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Wednesday, June 20, 2012

Attempting To Be Friends, Again


Keeping close friends is something I've never really been good at. I don't know if it's me or them but somewhere a long the line we start to drift off into our own little chaotic worlds and don't know how to reconnect afterwards.

This happened to my cousin and I around the same time I started dating Rusty, 8 years ago.The last day I really spoke to her was on my wedding day, which honestly wasn't for more than 5 minutes. The details of what actually went down that day are starting get fuzzy but I remember that we were both to blame. 

She brought along 6 uninvited loud friends to the wedding reception even though she was only allowed one guest and I replaced her as maid of honor with my soon-to-be SIL without her knowledge. Really shitty move on my part, I know.

It wasn't until a few years later that I realized having my husband as my best friend was awesome & all but I missed the friendship I had with her. 

Yeah, I'm totally guilty of ignoring her for the new love I'd found and chose time with him over shopping with her but that's what new love is, right? Hell, even farts smelled like roses back then.

And now, after 6 years of barely acknowledging each others existence at family gatherings (yes, they were always very awkward), we're carpooling to Las Vegas together for another family members bachelorette party. I'm definitely expecting lots of awkward moments, not that that's unusual when you're around me, but I'm hoping my big mouth won't offend her now lesbian ways since I have been known to blurt out "that's so fucking gay" once or twice before.

Either way, I'm a bit nervous, like first date kind of nervous and I can't help but wonder if next weekend will somehow end in a cat fight a la Girls Club.


13 comments:

  1. Well. Vegas seems to be a good place for brawls. And tawdry sex, but somehow I don't think that'll be going down (no pun intended) this weekend.

    Good luck! Maybe the car ride will give you guys an opportunity to work things out.

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  2. I hope it works out for the best, but if for some reason it doesn't, I hope someone gets it on video ;)

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  3. Aww, good luck! I hope it goes the really great reunion way, not the awkward we're still bitter way. And either way, I hope you enjoy vegas!

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  4. I'd be pissed if someone brought UN-invited guests to my wedding!!
    Good Luck!

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  5. I hope everything will work out fine. Thinking of you!

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  6. Alright, this post had me laughing. Not AT you...of course...but I totally get it. I wish all the best of luck my dear with the car ride. And seriously, is there someone you can text your whereabouts...cause I still wouldn't trust her, family or no family.

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  7. Oh, I hope you girls can manage to have a fun ride to Vegas. Are you two going to be alone the whole ride?

    I'm coming from Katrin's blog, btw :).

    Hope you're having a nice week!

    Miki.

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  8. God it's so tough isn't it, knowing the right balance of husband vs friend, being able to always and forever say the right thing at the right time, trying to not piss anyone/everyone off, being there for your friend... I totally get where you're coming from! Good luck.

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  9. Thats a tough situation....it can be hard when friends fall out...I've been on both sides of that coin. But I have found, in my personal situations that when I was open minded and treated that person like there was none of that tension there it helped smooth over a lot of akwardness. Its not easy, but for me, it made life easier! I really hope that maybe you guys can reconnect or something and that you have a really fun weekend in vegas!!

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  10. Ugh I hate that. My best friend and I had gotten into a really bad fight where were stopped talking for over a year. We went to Vegas and carpooled together too. We didn't talk the entire weekend and proceeded to not talk for about 5 more years. So it can bedone lol.

    We just started talking last year though so it could also go well lol. Good luck!

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  11. Shit can get rough trapped in a car. I got grounded once when I was a teenager while driving during a family road trip....for saying 'fuck.' The whole rest of the car ride was spent fuming in the back seat, wanting to hurt my father, and considering jumping out. My point is, maybe it'd be good to get in touch before the trip? Leaving it all up to that period of entrapment...yikes. Good luck and please enjoy a buffet for me!

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  12. hoepfully it starts wherever you guys left off!

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  13. I know I am supposed to leave a comment that is super supportive (because I really am - don't get me wrong! I really hope it works out - you're so funny that you're going to win her over again in a second) but all I can think when I look at/read this post is THOSE BLOBS ARE SO CUTE AND YET SO MEAN! :)

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