Tuesday, September 28, 2010

Today I Will Be Better

*Originally posted @IEFamily: Missing Puzzle Pieces, my other blog*

I'm a good wife. At least I like to think I am.

I love my husband unconditionally, support all of his wacky hobbies, am his best friend and would walk through fire for him. But recently I've noticed that I take him for granted. Every little thing he does seems to be aimed at pleasing me and making me happy. I know, I'm one lucky lady!

The other day he looked me in the face & told me "I wake up everyday & think of different ways to make you happy" and that alone brought tears to my eyes.

Tears of happiness, joy, gratitude and a bit of sadness.

Sadness because unlike my wonderful husband, who's little quirks sometimes get on my nerves, I get so caught up in my daily routine that I forget to take a moment and think about how I can make him happy. I've been selfish in thinking that I don't have to go out of my way to make him happy and that he'll be content with the mediocre attention I give him throughout my busy day of commuting, work, family & writing.

I may think of myself as a good wife but in retrospect I'm not being the best wife I can be. I've allowed him to blend into the background of my life while he continues to put me first in his. I've taken him for granted and forgot for a moment that marriage is a partnership.

Today I will try harder to be a better partner and today I will think hard about how I can make my husband happy.

Marriage isn't always easy, it's something you have to work at everyday but it's always worth it

(note: For the record I'm not suggesting a woman be at a mans beck & call or forget who they are to please them. This post is about me realizing my selfishness & recognizing that my marriage isnt going to stay good on it's own, I have to put work into it.)


  1. and cue the tears!
    love love love this post. always a hard realization... but a good one to realize. you and rusty are so wonderful together and have a love that is seen in each others eyes. *hugs*

  2. Ah it easy to take the good things in life for granted isnt it. But you are recognizing that and making an effort to be more appreciative and that is awesome!

  3. Beautiful post!!! Marriage is so worth all the effort put into it!!

  4. I'm glad you said you will do it today.
    I saw a quote that said:

    Tomorrow is often the busiest day of the week. ~Spanish Proverb
    I'm not married but I've heard it's not a 50/50 thing, rather it's 100/100 deal.

  5. Sometimes I feel the same way...it's really hard to keep up with life and still be a great wife, but I try.

  6. I cant stand how some people or TV shows portray relationships. They push the idea that if your not madly in love everyday that its time to bolt. I strongly believe that in most cases if you were in love at one point you can always work your way back.

  7. What a sweet, honest post that made me reconsider my own actions and whether I've been taking the time out to try to make my hubby happy. Thanks for the beautiful post!


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